Natural labour or a C-section? Drugs or no drugs? So many nosey questions.

Natural labour or a C-section? Drugs or no drugs? So many nosey questions.

Perth Mamas to be, all different, yet all the same. Captured by Fox and Wilding Photography for @amothersempire

Natural labour or a C-section? Drugs or no drugs?
Here I’m in the thick of the third trimester, 38 weeks and what feels like now the longest 2 weeks of all time to go.
It’s my last pregnancy, the last time my body will grow a life, share a heartbeat with another in the same body.

Now at this stage of pregnancy, so many questions are being asked and opinions are flying in fast…
So are you going to have natural labour or a C-section? Drugs or no drugs?
Breast or bottle? Are you still going to be feeding that toddler of yours AND a baby?
Oh wow, you are huge, sure there’s only one haha? (Yeh original mate ha)
Your not very big are you?
Don’t worry you will shed that baby weight in no time!

And my personal favourite, Is this your last, I mean seriously you can’t be going for any more surely?!

And as for that last question that since I’ve chosen to share snippets of my life on here…
It is most definitely the LAST time, my body has had enough the Hyperemesis gravidarum (HG) has completely taken its toll on my body, my mind and changed my way of life completely over the past 9mths.
And so it is official Mr. Oatesy has sorted that out #snippysnip phewwww I feel an overwhelming sense of relief!

So here’s the thing, why do ANY of these questions matter at all?
However, your baby comes into the world doesn’t make it any less incredible – in fact it doesn’t matter one single bit.
It doesn’t make you any less of a mother than anyone else, yet I have had many conversations with other women telling me that feel they often feel so much pressure to explain their choices and that they often have felt immense judgement. This is not on, especially when the judgement is at times actually coming from other women, we are in an age where women are rising more than ever, using their voices and striving further for empowerment, so to grow further towards this it’s important to remember to support each other, not pass judgment in these very personal and important life changing moments.


Adding to this, at the end of the day pretty sure nobody really gives a hoot whether the baby came out the sunroof, your veejay (or someone else’s for that matter) and whether you decided to take ALL the drugs or none at all! We all just hope for a safe delivery for both mother and child and healthy baby.

However, YOU choose to birth you baby or feed your baby; boobs or bottle is your business, if they are fed, healthy and happy what is it to someone else?
So bloody what if you don’t shed your “baby weight” in no time, so what if you don’t shed it ever AND equally if you fit back into your pre-pregnancy jeans 2 days after – GO you!

Don’t EVER feel the need to explain YOUR PERSONAL choices or experiences.

Everyone is entitled to an opinion, BUT here’s the thing not every opinion NEEDS to be voiced.
Remarkably you can also have an opinion silent in your own mind where nobody else hears it *shocking right?!

Have you experienced any of the questions before, or found you felt subject to judgment for your choices?

Feel free to share your experiences in the comments – if you feel comfortable, remember you are not alone – many people often go through similar experiences too and it can be hard to share.

Be kind always,

Rose x

Having my Placenta Encapsulated

Having my Placenta Encapsulated

On having my Placenta Encapsulated…
This is the first time I’ve had my placenta encapsulated and I have been asked a lot of questions about it, so I thought I would share my experience.

When I had Indianna – our first child, I was young, nervous and really uneducated on all things birth and recovery… I had never heard of so many things birth related let alone eating your placenta! But third time around, 11 years on and (a little) wiser, I wanted to be more educated and have a more positive experience both for the birth of my child and during my postpartum days to follow.


The first 3 months after baby have been referred to as the 4th Trimester and I can totally understand why… it’s the time after birth that you and your body are working hard – Firstly adjusting to a new way of life with a newborn, all while your body is recovering, regulating hormones, working on producing milk and with little sleep so you can get on with caring and nourishing your newborn straight away.

I had really low iron the whole pregnancy and Hyperemesis gravidarum (HG), which was mentally and physically draining, so it was my aim to feel as good as I possibly could after having my baby. Craig and I did our research and saw the benefits of encapsulation.

We found local Perth company @pureplacentas and they have been absolutely amazing! They pick up your placenta after birth from hospital or home and safely transport it in temperature monitored esky. I had my pills personally delivered to me in hospital the next afternoon.

Mel and the team are personal, informative and stay in touch during the weeks to follow the birth to provide any information about your pills and well being.

The benefits for me personally have definitely been noticed. My milk came in faster and in huge supply, I haven’t had mood swings – in fact I have felt remarkably calm and my energy levels – considering I’ve got a large family and running on little sleep have been noticeably better then before.

Iron stores drop naturally after birth and I was already struggling with low iron due to pregnancy and being coeliac but the placenta is rich in easily absorbed natural iron. I’ve since had my iron levels tested and the results are better then they have been in a long time and I’ve felt so much better. After the birth of my first two daughters, I lost a lot of hair but this time it’s stayed thick, fluffy and shiny! BONUS!

Personally written card with information about my Placenta health and special features.


This is my personal experience with Placenta encapsulation, I would definitely do it again in the future (if I had another baby) I don’t take any other vitamins and I didn’t have to mention who did my encapsulation but I was so impressed by my experience and this family run business that I chose to share it ❤️

Rose x

For more information check out Pure Placentas and Midwife Mel here https://pureplacentas.com.au/

Perth Now also wrote an article on encapsulation HERE